The ‘Scissordemic’ and Other Things Lesbians (and Gays) Don’t Want To Hear

For all the negative comments and homophobia from heterosexual people, they seem to be keenly interested in what gay men and women do in the privacy of their bedrooms. I got to see this Buzzfeed post through a friend and though a lot of the pictures are funny, some of them are quite rude and it’s interesting that many of these questions are similar to the ideas people have here about gay people; only instead of questions, people make sweeping, baseless and inane comments on a topic they haven’t even bothered to even Google, to say nothing of actual research. The one about straight man hitting on a lesbian in a bar is on point on a personal level: my gay friend and his straight friend got kicked out of a gay bar because the idiot kept hitting on all the women there since he believed he could “convert” any lesbian there with his anointed “staff” boosted by confidence-inducing power of cheap beer. While I understand that people are just interested in learning more about stuff they don’t know about, it helps to display a little tact and common sense with making queries which goes a long way towards making one seem like a genuine person as opposed to a moron.

^^^^^Of all the pictures, this one made me laugh like a hyena on acid.

Read the rest here: 20 Things Lesbians Are Tired of Hearing

 

Kiss The Boys: Serial Killer Targets Gay Men in South Africa

South Africa, known for gold, diamonds, apartheid and Nelson Mandela; is popular in the gay community for many reasons. First, it’s the only country in Africa where GLBT are protected by the law and allowed to marry, with all the well-known tax and other benefits that comes with it. It’s also given us some fabulous porn stars such as Kurt Rogers and Jason Kingsley (yes, the link is SFW). On the other hand, it has become infamous for its high frequency of violence against lesbians and now, the violent murder of gay men. South Africa is actually the country with the second highest number of serial killers (after the United States) according to South African profiler M. Pistorius. The information available on these crimes suggest that they are the work of a serial killer and even more worrying is that the police do not seem any closer to catching him after three years and the killing spree shows no signs of abating. 

 

An African Gay Traditional Wedding

Two gentlemen got married this weekend in the KwaZulu-Natal province of South Africa. What made this particular ceremony so beautiful was that it was a traditional wedding, celebrated with family and friends. South Africa remains one of the few countries in Africa where it’s legal to be gay and to marry your significant other of any sex.

For me as a West African, to have a gay traditional wedding with the full support of your family, particularly your extended family is the zenith of acceptance and no document obtained from a court will ever equal this. Unfortunately, legal acceptance is the only form that seems likely and this may not occur any time soon.

One of the grooms said:“We see no reason to hide in darkness as if there is something to be ashamed about. Our marriage is largely symbolic and a sign that black gay men can commit and build family through a happy and loving marriage.”

I wish them joy, peace and prosperity in their life together and I hope this wedding is a harbinger of the kind of total acceptance the future holds for our continent.

 

Glimpses of My Father

One of the challenges I continuously encounter in the world of anonymous blogging is determining how much personal information to release about myself and others. My full name, pictures and such stuff I know to avoid but certain conversations, interests and experiences I find myself unable to decide whether or not I should share them and I feel this one may be one of such.