More About DC

This is yet another African gay blog.

I started this blog because I needed to talk about the things in my head without being considered a pariah – especially by the gay people I knew who were mostly interested in getting married (to women) while seeing their boys on the side. And so I began to withdraw from people but it wasn’t enough. I was slowly going crazy from holding back so many things, forcing myself to pretend to talk about women or drinking or sports when I really wanted to talk about the sort of life I wanted to live, the freedom I needed in my everyday life. Gay issues were also beginning to feature in the media and never in a good light – a gay man was either an import, a feminine man who would wear makeup in public or someone from a very poor background who probably had sex with men just for money. I want to refute them but I can’t. The inability to do so me feel impotent, like a coward and filled me with frustration. Like David Kato said, if you keep quiet “they will say we are not here.”

It wasn’t some “foreigner” that took advantage of me. It wasn’t some school mate that “converted” me. Though I’ve struggled and denied it time after time, I know who I am. I am gay. But I’m so much more than that. After all, before I was born my parents knew they I would be black, they knew I was a boy at birth. Being gay is only a part of me and a part of me that I cannot change just as I cannot change my ethnicity or sex but it certainly isn’t all of me.

ย This blog is my way of releasing tension and freeing my mind of the many thoughts that are constantly seeking expression, of talking about private but equally important parts of my life in a way I am unable to do so with the people who matter the most to me.


21 responses to “More About DC

  1. Guy Penn

    June 13, 2012 at 3:56 pm

    While I am sure I’m not the first or the last, I wanted to let you know that I recognized your blog in the “Reader Appreciation Awards”. I’ve really enjoyed your writing, insights and perspective. Thank you!

  2. Rich

    June 22, 2012 at 3:47 am

    As a white guy with no particular agenda but to see what others think, I look forward to going back to your earlier posts. A good writer brings us better understanding of the world, if we only choose to read. You are a good writer, write on.

  3. kenyanphil

    December 5, 2012 at 9:40 am

    Great writing there, Now following ;]

    • D.C.

      December 6, 2012 at 5:51 am

      Thanks and thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. jeroen

    January 1, 2013 at 9:36 am

    Great blog

    • D.C.

      January 27, 2013 at 3:15 pm


    • Roxy

      May 18, 2017 at 11:58 am

      That’s really shdewr! Good to see the logic set out so well.

  5. rainey

    January 14, 2013 at 10:46 pm

    I haven’t heard from you lately. I hope all is well. ~Rainey

    • D.C.

      January 27, 2013 at 3:13 pm

      I’m alive and well.
      Thanks for checking ๐Ÿ™‚

      • rainey

        January 29, 2013 at 12:44 am

        Glad to hear you are okay.

  6. aguywithoutboxers

    February 20, 2013 at 9:40 pm

    I’ve only been following your blog for almost a week now. I’m enjoying looking over your older postings here. I am a fan of your writing. Great job!

    • D.C.

      February 20, 2013 at 9:49 pm

      Thanks ๐Ÿ˜€

      • aguywithoutboxers

        February 20, 2013 at 9:54 pm

        My pleasure, sir!

  7. Vincent Masi

    June 26, 2013 at 2:53 am

    thank you for the gift of this, and of yourself. :-).

    • D.C.

      June 26, 2013 at 11:17 am


  8. Wackie

    October 1, 2013 at 8:35 pm

    Dear DC,

    I am a Ghanaian who comes from quite a privileged background. I am essentially looking for a boy whose family life and education level is similar to mine (I went to international schools and UNI in the UK to become a doctor) . How do I find him?

    • D.C.

      October 1, 2013 at 9:33 pm

      Hello Wackie, I am not sure what you are asking, Are you trying to reconnect with someone?

  9. theoccasionalman

    June 26, 2014 at 3:59 am

    Hey. No-Longer-Angry Ricky has a new blog. Stop by some time.

    • D.C.

      July 1, 2014 at 10:25 pm



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