Being single and without friends in a new city can be tough. Meeting men isn’t especially in a place like London. I recently met a slightly older gentleman who was very hot, friendly and funny (humour is a big thing where I’m concerned). We had drinks a few times and danced the horizontal cha-cha. It was all very casual but he was beginning to get serious, calling and texting all the time and I wasn’t sure if I was into him that much (for reasons that will be discussed later). I let him know subtly that I wasn’t where he seemed to be but I wasn’t sure if he understood completely. However I actually enjoyed talking to him a lot and we continued to meet up for coffee (but without any more dancing). Anyway a few days ago he invited me out for drinks with a few of his friends. It was a fun evening and as things were winding down we were joined by a very good-looking, slender young man who sat next to him, not saying much. The evening took a very interesting turn from then on. For some reason, something about the man and the way he sat next to my friend struck me as off and a bit too intimate. As luck would have it, my friend decided to go for a smoke-break as his friends were taking off so it was just me and this new gentleman at the table. We started talking and I asked how he knew my friend to which he replied that they have been in a relationship for two years. I burst into laughter. I could see he was taken aback and I quickly calmed myself. When he asked how I knew him, I mentioned we met through a mutual friend (where our mutual friend was not a human being but a mobile phone application capable of reducing six degrees of separation to just one – at least where gay men are concerned). Once my ‘friend’ came back, I immediately excused myself and went home and haven’t talked to him since.
While I’m surprised (and highly amused) that he’s in a relationship, I wonder why he chose to lie about it and why he would put the two of us in the same room. Did he not consider the possibility that his man could ask how we know each other and/or that we would both be left alone at the table – like how it went down that evening? Why would he put pressure on me to consider something serious when he was already in a relationship? For all I know they are in an open relationship (something I’ve been told is not uncommon here) and I hope for the sake of all involved that they are. As much as I considered telling this guy how I actually met his boyfriend (especially as I also felt dirty – even though I didn’t know this rascal wasn’t single) I wasn’t sure it was a good idea, especially in a public place. The last thing I would want is to be part of a couple’s fight in a restaurant. In the end, I’m just glad that what could have been difficult became ridiculously easy.
Next time I meet a guy in this town I will be running a polygraph on him before the evening is over. Apparently there’s an app for that too 🙂