I’m a calm person and not particularly given to rants (okay that may not be totally true). I also see myself as a (mostly) generous person and try to invest time and effort into helping others and give some financial help, however little, when I cannot do more. It drives me insane when I realize that in trying to help someone or a cause, I have been taken advantage of or deceived. Enter the case of two young activists to whose cause I gave a donation so that they could work with some NGOs on LGBT rights in sub-Saharan Africa.
I’m not ready to put my face to this battle but that doesn’t mean I should not support those who are ready and willing to do so. I am also aware that there are a lot of people who claim to be fighting for the rights of LGBT but besides globe-trotting do absolutely NO WORK. I put up a significant amount (relatively since what is significant to me may be peanuts to the next person) to this person AGAINST MY BETTER JUDGEMENT. I just felt that I should give them the benefit of the doubt and rein in the cynicism this time. Guess what? They took a worldwide trip on the cash raised – no updates, no reports and these were were promised at the time of asking for the money. I have reached out to them and gotten no response. I want to say that I will never make such a donation again but I know that will be wrong since there are a lot of genuine people out there who are really doing the work worldwide. It kills me that I had reservations about this particular duo but went ahead to give out the money. Even though I’m pissed off and have stored up a few choice ‘words’ for them should we ever meet again, I don’t blame them for they was acting according to their desires and only being true to their nature. The blame rather falls squarely on my shoulders because I should have thought carefully and assessed the situation a little more than I did before I made my decision. I will however look more closely next time.