I was hanging out with an older cousin recently when she asked to see my phone. I don’t know if I had momentarily forgotten the kind of information I keep on that device or if I was subconsciously trying to out myself. To cut a short story even shorter, I gave the phone to her then spent the next five minutes holding my breath while feigning nonchalance though my eyes were involuntarily drawn to the screen as she scrolled through my applications list and past the popular gay chat apps – Grindr etc. My heart responded to every click with a loud thud. When she asked if I could direct her to my gallery, I immediately snatched my phone and pretended I had to respond to an email because there is NO WAY I was going to let her see my pictures. I wasn’t in any sexually or otherwise compromising photos but there were some I’d rather she didn’t see.
Which brings me to a question I hadn’t ever thought about: do heterosexual people know about gay mobile chat apps? Read the rest of this entry »
A few months ago, someone started thread in an web-based group with this question. He then followed by stating that he did not think any GLBT should be allowed to raise children. When questioned further, he said he didn’t have any reasons, this was his “gut” feeling even though there is existing evidencecontrary to what he believes. On a regular day, I wouldn’t have cared about this sort of nonsense but what angered me the most was that this was a gay group and this guy was very gay.
One type of music I’ve not enjoyed a lot of is rap, the mainstream kind. Sure, there are a lot of lyrical folks out there but most of them eventually fall into the habit of creating music centred around driving the flashiest cars, having a 5-some with 5 beautiful women and generally spending tons of money. It’s hard enough having to pretend caring about that girl’s backside when I’m with straight friends and I’d rather not spend my private time pretending some more. My fantasies also do not involve driving flashy cars or anything more than a 2-some.
Enter Goody Goodies from Cakes Da Killa. He’s a twenty-two year old rapper from the US who’s been out since thethird grade. I enjoy his pace and sassy yet funny persona although some of his lines are rude and occasionally I felt like wiping my speakers down ’cause they had been violated by an onslaught of F-and-N-bombs (up until a few years ago I couldn’t listen to any song with the F-word anywhere, the censored versions with the gaps were even worse). These days there are out gay rappers who are making good music (and not just gay music) so I guess it’s time I explored this genre of music again. I can’t wait to listen to what he makes next.
I got nominated twice for the Liebster blog awards by Gay Dinosaur Tales and A Guy Without Boxers, two blogs with great content I started following recently. The Liebster Blog Award was created as a way of making readers aware of blogs that they should check out. I for one think it’s a good idea because unless you constantly check on the categories of your choice 24/7, you will definitely miss out on some of the good stuff that is out there. Read the rest of this entry »
For all the negative comments and homophobia from heterosexual people, they seem to be keenly interested in what gay men and women do in the privacy of their bedrooms. I got to see this Buzzfeed post through a friend and though a lot of the pictures are funny, some of them are quite rude and it’s interesting that many of these questions are similar to the ideas people have here about gay people; only instead of questions, people make sweeping, baseless and inane comments on a topic they haven’t even bothered to even Google, to say nothing of actual research. The one about straight man hitting on a lesbian in a bar is on point on a personal level: my gay friend and his straight friend got kicked out of a gay bar because the idiot kept hitting on all the women there since he believed he could “convert” any lesbian there with his anointed “staff” boosted by confidence-inducing power of cheap beer. While I understand that people are just interested in learning more about stuff they don’t know about, it helps to display a little tact and common sense with making queries which goes a long way towards making one seem like a genuine person as opposed to a moron.
^^^^^Of all the pictures, this one made me laugh like a hyena on acid.
South Africa, known for gold, diamonds, apartheid and Nelson Mandela; is popular in the gay community for many reasons. First, it’s the only country in Africa where GLBT are protected by the law and allowed to marry, with all the well-known tax and other benefits that comes with it. It’s also given us some fabulous porn stars such as Kurt Rogers and Jason Kingsley (yes, the link is SFW). On the other hand, it has become infamous for its high frequency of violence against lesbians and now, the violent murder of gay men. South Africa is actually the country with the second highest number of serial killers (after the United States) according to South African profiler M. Pistorius. The information available on these crimes suggest that they are the work of a serial killer and even more worrying is that the police do not seem any closer to catching him after three years and the killing spree shows no signs of abating. Read the rest of this entry »
Journalists in Ghana are in an uproar over accounts of homosexuality at local secondary schools.
To the extent that their reports are true, more than 50 students have been dismissed for homosexual behavior.
The reports come on the heels of a controversy over the February appointment of human rights lawyer Nana Oye Lithur as Ghana's Minister for Gender, Children and Social Protection after she said that she supports "the rights of everybody, including homosexuals."
I was hanging out with an older cousin recently when she asked to see my phone. I don’t know if I had momentarily forgotten the kind of information I keep on that device or if I was subconsciously trying to out myself. To cut a short story even shorter, I gave the phone to her then spent the next five minutes holding my breath while feigning nonchalance though my eyes were involuntarily drawn to the screen as she scrolled through my applications list and past the popular gay chat apps – Grindr etc. My heart responded to every click with a loud thud. When she asked if I could direct her to my gallery, I immediately snatched my phone and pretended I had to respond to an email because there is NO WAY I was going to let her see my pictures. I wasn’t in any sexually or otherwise compromising photos but there were some I’d rather she didn’t see.
